Fear of Eternal Lonliness

Let's face it, we have all been there, the fear of being eternally lonely.  Eternally means for the rest of your life, forever, and forever.  Forever is a harsh word because it means forever. According to the blog, The Frisky a new study was done at the University of Toronto's Department of Psychology where it was discovered that the fear of being single leads both men and women to settle for relationships that don't fulfill them.  We all have some fear of dying.  But imagine that fear coupled with dying alone or having a heart attack while cuddled with your pet knowing that your life is going to be over, suddenly, alone.  "The thought of dying and no one finding me for days is one hellova scary thought.
  But the truth is when you die, your dead and unless there is some magical out of body experience where you see yourself laying there dead for days you will never know that you died alone. However most of us don't think that way.  We think in the moment.  So how many of us continue to date someone we know is not good for us.  They are mean, inattentive, cheaters, and host of other dysfunctional disorders.  But our fear of being alone is what makes us settle.

I know, I have dated people who I  know aren't good for me.  Eternally single is not something I want to be known for.  Not that I care what people think.  It is what I think.  It is the reality of the moment I live in.  Who doesn't want true love and affection.  Who doesn't want someone there when things go awry.  But let's be frank the person who we are dating, that is not good for us will never give a damn about us or feel any empathy to our feelings.  So really what is the difference between being alone or being with someone that makes us feel like we are in shark infested waters hanging on an inner tube for dear life.   

Being lonely does not discriminate on the basis of gender.  "All humans are fucking lonely according to the article.  The article goes on to say, "don't settle out of fear. Your best choices are spent managing your anxiety about spinsterhood  or mansterhood so you don't pick the worst people to date.

Unfortunately we has human beings will never learn our lesson.  Because we loathe loneliness or plainly we fear being alone.

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